Thursday, April 24, 2008
Final from Russia
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Saying “Goodbye” to Dormitory 35
Dormitory 35 is one of the most awful sites I have ever seen in St. Petersburg, and I’ve seen some pretty bad ones. These kids are not even on the “ladder” of anyone’s thoughts – forget the bottom rung, they’re not even standing close to the ladder itself! They have nothing. There are three young people to each room that has three single beds, two or three straight-back chairs, and one desk. Many of the kids are disabled, either physically or mentally, and no one cares whether they wake up in the morning, or whether they return home at night. More than half of them will simply, as Lucya says, “Be disappearing.” They just vanish, and no one looks for them. They just hold the bed open for a few months and then give it to someone else.
All Russian citizens have a room allocated to them – many are from family inheritances; i.e. the family has a set of rooms and one is designated for the child when he/she graduates from school. All of these kids at Dorm 35 have those rooms allocated to them, and people who like to take advantage of uneducated people drive up in their shiny black cars, hold out a bag of money and a piece of paper, and tell the kids, “Hey, just sign this paper and sell me your room; then you can have this bag of money!” Of course, the kids don’t count the money, they don’t seek legal counsel (they don’t even know what that is!), and suddenly they have lost their inheritance, and when they graduate from the dorm they have no place to go.
Little Losha (pictured here in his "new" clothes that were donated by a local church) is one of those people. He came to the family home over a year ago, but was so addicted to his cigarettes (and lying), and so enjoyed his independence, that Marina Topol, the director of Road of Life, had to send him back to the dorm. She and others had thought that once Losha got back to the dorm he would want to return to the security of the family home, but it didn’t work out that way. You see, orphans don’t look at the world like those of us who had the security of a family and home do. They see you, you take them in, they begin to trust you and love you and depend on you, and then when something goes wrong and you punish them, they see it as another abandonment, someone else throwing them away.
Losha will graduate this spring from the dorm and he has no place to go but to a social hotel. This is like a hostel and is where ex-convicts go to live when they get out of prison, where prostitutes live and do business, and where drugs are the norm. On Monday night, Lucya asked Losha would he please return to the family home and he said, “No. I want to live at the social hotel. It will be an adventure.” I think he’s scared – I know I would be – but he’s afraid to again put his trust in us. He sees his being returned to the dorm as our failure, and maybe it is.
Losha, Olga (pictured above with Lucya), and Natasha (pictured below) walked us to the metro from the dorm, because they wanted to be with me as long as they could since it was my last night with them. Losha had sat beside me all evening, tickling me, trying to make me laugh; hugging me at unexpected moments; just making a general nuisance of himself (and I loved every minute of it!). As I stood in the metro saying goodbye to these three precious young people, I grabbed Losha, hugged him, and then placed my hands on each of his cheeks and said, “I love you! We all love you! I will miss you. Do you understand that?” He said, “Yes.” I then told him, “Quit smoking those awful cigarettes because they are killing you in here (I pointed to his chest).” He smiled and nodded; and then I told him, “And beautiful Christian girls don’t like to kiss handsome men with bad cigarette breath!” He again smiled, nodded, and hugged me one last time.
My main rule is that I don’t cry in front of the kids. I want them to remember all of our time together as happy times. That’s why I carry tissues in my pocket the last week; why I cry on the escalator going down to the metro train; why I cry myself to sleep each night. It’s an emotional time, and it’s going to get harder each day. Tonight (Thursday night), I have to say goodbye to the kids at Dormitory 70 – another tough one! Then Friday night I have to be happy as we celebrate my 54th birthday and then cry myself into exhaustion on the plane Saturday as I return home.
Saying “Goodbye” here on earth is hard – isn’t it wonderful that we will never have to say “Goodbye” in heaven! Once we get “home” we’ll be there forever and ever, never having to shed a tear, or wave goodbye, or hug a child for perhaps the last time. Thank You, Father God for the blessings of this trip, and I will always be thankful for the precious lives your have let me be a part of.
From Russia with Love,
Nancy
Monday, April 21, 2008
Thanks, Karen
It's good to have faithful, Christian friends, and we can all look forward to her blog when she, her husband John, and their four children come to St. Petersburg to live as Road of Life counselors next September. TALK ABOUT A CHALLENGE! They will need your prayers for sure!
Nancy
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Winding Down – 10-9-8-7-6...
Anya has been offered an internship with the Childrens’ Ministry at Second Baptist Church in Humble, Texas, and we will have more information on that in the next few weeks. Pray that she will see God’s will for her life, as she seeks His guidance in this decision as to whether or not to live in the US for the summer. (Photo: Me, Liza, and Anya at Child in Danger)
Lucya (pictured with Roustik from Child in Danger) is beginning her own ministry, separate from Road of Life. It has been a hard decision to make, but circumstances that were ordained by God have made it easier for her to see His will in many things that have happened over the last few months. As she has spent many hours in Bible study and prayer, God has shown her His great plan for her. She will begin to do work searching for the children to become a part of the transition/family home ministries that are available here. She has so many wonderful contacts and God is opening so many doors that will allow her to see those young people who are in need, and hopefully have a home to place them in. She will be working closely with both Road of Life, based here in St. Petersburg, and also with Reflections of Hope, the ministry that sponsors Gary and Pam Austutz out of Ohio. It is her prayer that God will continue to place the desire in the hearts of Americans to help sponsor more of these homes, so that we can help to save many of the young people who are disappearing each year.
Meisha, who will graduate from ROL this May, shared in his testimony this past weekend how when he graduated from the orphanage and was offered a place at ROL, he declined, because he wanted to live in the dormitory with his friends. But over the next year, as he watched more and more of them simply disappear, never to be heard from again, he realized that suddenly he was alone more and more, and he sought out the safety and hope that was available through ROL. Please pray for the counselors, sponsors, and residents, as well as the transition and family home ministries, that God will continue to provide for more living quarters for them, and for more counselors to come to help teach them how to be productive, Christian men and women.
From Russia with Love,
Nancy
Saturday, April 19, 2008
A True Servant
This past Friday night we traveled outside of St. Petersburg one hour by bus to a resort on the Gulf of Finland (I would tell you its name, but I can’t spell it and you couldn’t pronounce it anyway!). Most of the Road of Life family attended (there were 28 adults and 2 children), and we invited several young women who are prospective, future family members – Vera was one of those guests.
I first met Vera on a Monday night after my first visit to Dormitory #35. When we left the building to start our walk to the metro, Vera was there waiting for us. She was always faithful to wait for Lucya and the team and walk with us to the metro. Last Monday night, the night that we brought little Marina home with us, Vera saw that we had extra bags to carry, and a child to watch over, so she decided to come all the way home with us. We offered her some soup for dinner, a quick cup of tea, and then she left to head home to the dormitory. On Thursday, she called Lucya and asked if it would be okay for her to come with us on our retreat, and Lucya told her definitely YES. Vera, along with several others, met us at a northern metro site and we made the one hour trek to the resort.
Throughout the evening, and all day Saturday, every time I turned around, Vera was there – ready to take out the trash, sweep the floor, help serve tea to anyone entering the room. When we started home Saturday evening, she told Lucya that she was going to travel home with me because I had a tote bag to carry and she didn’t want me to have to carry my purse and the bag. I told her that I could make it, but she said, “No, I want to help you. You have done so much for me this weekend.” So I invited her to spend the night with us (Masha, a young girl from Orphanage 6 was also planning to spend the night). Her first reaction was no, because she had forgotten to bring her house shoes, and no one enters a Russian home without slippers on. She said she would go to the dorm and get them, but I told her we had plenty of slippers and to just come on home with us.
On Friday night, when I asked Vera if she would like to come live at the family home, she said, “Yes, I would love to live in the family home with these people, but I can’t.” I asked her why she couldn’t and she told me about a young man at Dormitory 35 who is crippled and moves very slowly, and she feels that God wants her to help this young man. She told Lucya, “If I leave, who will help him? He depends on me. I will visit the family home when you will invite me, but I cannot come live there as long as someone at the dormitory needs me.” I told her that God had given her a true gift – the gift of serving others – and she told me, “Yes, I have felt the need to help others for 10 years. I want to always help others.”
I fully expect that the next time I look up the word “servant” in the dictionary I’ll see a picture of Vera as an example!
From Russia with Love!
Nancy
Monday, April 14, 2008
There are all kinds of orphans.
We had originally planned to be at Fuydor Shelter for Homeless Children, and it would not have been safe to take Marina there, but God already had a plan in action for us not to go to Fuydor, but to do Hospital 15 and CID instead. At these two places Marina will just be another child joining in the games, singing, and making crafts.
As I am writing this, she is in a bubble bath with a crown of bubbles on her head. She has laughed more in the last two hours than probably in her entire life. When we first met her last Monday she was withdrawn and would not even smile when offered candy. All of you who know Lucya know that if she cannot get a child to smile, then no one can! It seemed hopeless to us. Tonight, I presented Marina with a small backpack with colored pens and two coloring book – she and Anya made quite a bit of progress in their coloring tonight! But even then, a quiet thank you, but no smile.
At first she cried when her mother said that she would stay with Lucya, but when we got home and Marina met Sarah (the cat that belongs to our Marina), she began to run and play, just like a normal 5 year old. And Nadezda, the director at CID, has said that she will have a psychologist visit with Marina tomorrow and that Natasha can bring her anytime that she needs some rest, and Marina will be welcome there. We thank God that he has placed this special child of his in charge of Child in Danger – Nadezda is truly a special lady!
It is wonderful that God has placed Christians here ready to serve, ready to take in a child, ready to give a mother a “vacation” (even if it only means a couple days of rest). We thank God for the chance to love this sweet child, and we ask that you pray for her and her family, just as we prayed with Natasha when she left our home tonight – leaving behind her most treasured possession for us to guard and keep.
From Russia with Love!
Nancy
Sunday, April 13, 2008
It doesn't get any better than this!
Friday, April 11, 2008
Road of Life Grads
From Russia with Love!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
It's a GIRL!
Also living at Vera's apartment is Katya, who will graduate this May from ROL. She is a gorgeous brunette and shyly speaks some English. Vera shared her testimony regarding Katya two weeks ago at our weekly prayer meeting of the ROL counselors. She told how she struggled with Katya and her attitude the first few months that Katya came to live with them. It seemed to be one battle of wills after another, one punishment after another - nothing seemed to work! Then Vera said that the Lord revealed to her during her daily prayer time that SHE was the problem, not Katya. God instructed Vera to love Katya just as she was - not to try to change Katya, but to try to change herself - to basically as my grandmother used to say, "Kill 'em with kindness! It relieves your stress and drives them crazy!" And it worked. Suddenly Vera was hugging Katya more, telling her how special she was, complimenting her on the good things she did, rather than harping on the bad. God changed them both, and now Katya is a confident, loving young woman, and has even brought her sister Nadia into the home, and hopefully Nadia will become a ROL resident as well.
Vova is an assistant building contractor on one of the major buildings being built in St. Petersburg. He is a wonderful father, not only to his two sons, Nakita and Sasha, but the girls that God has placed in his home. When the Nevsky apartment was bought in the summer of 2007, Vova committed himself to doing most of the renovation work himself. He worked all that summer - no A/C and sometimes no electricity - stripping down walls and rebuilding them, renovating plumbing, everything. Now the apartment is beautiful and almost finished. It is a home that he can truly be proud of - not only its physical appearance, but its loving, Christian foundation as well.
Living with this wonderful family is Tyson, a young man who is from Texas and who will be entering medical school in the fall in the U.S. His family, after he and his younger brother were approaching their teens, adopted three children from Russia, so he has had Russia in his heart for years. He graduated from college last fall and decided to come live in St.P to study Russian intensively for the spring.
Tyson is a wonderful, Christian young man and helps with our English classes at dormitory #70, teaching a group of boys. He also plays the guitar and leads the fellowship time on Saturday afternoon at Vera's apartment. He plans to return home to San Antonio in July.
(Seated: Vova, Vera, Sasha, Katya, Tyson, Nakita; standing: Little Katya)
Please keep this family in your prayers, and send up an extra "Thanks" to God for all He has done to bring this family together.
From Russia with love,
Nancy
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Boys' Home Residents
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Meet the Gang!
This is Lena with Katya, one of the teens from Child in Danger shelter.
Also in our apartment are two young women. Ira will graduate from ROL this May and will then go to live with another of our graduates. She is quite active with school, church, and her friends, and loves to talk! This picture was taken Saturday, March 15 at the Christian Ball that was sponsored by one of the churches.
Also in our home is Yulia. She has been a resident for less than one year and came to us from Dormitory #35 where she had been classified as disabled - meaning the teachers thought she was uneducable, and she also has a speech problem and some physical problems. She is a very loving child with some special needs, and has had a hard time adjusting to Lucya's leaving the home. But like most young people, she is resilient and we pray for God's blessings for her.
Yulia is on the left, along with Natasha from Dormitory #35.